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Left To Our Own Devices – How Phoney Are Your Interpersonal Communication Skills?

Todays world, and the people within it, are more connected than ever before. Our technology enables us to contact and communicate with others almost anytime and anywhere. The barriers to entry to use this technology are disappearing fast as most people nowadays can get access to this technology regardless of their financial position.

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To demonstrate this perfectly, I travelled for 8 months primarily reliant on FREE WIFI to communicate and plan my trip around the UK and back in 2015 - all on an entry level android device. With email and numerous social networks like LinkedIn, Youtube, Twitter, Google+ and facebook, we can all communicate to others (note not necessarily with others) like no other time in human history. Our devices have us communicating to each other more than ever before. As a Life Transformation Coach and passionate student of, and in life, I am by nature a curious person. I am genuinely interested in making my own connections and furthering my own learnings, un-learnings, and understandings. Like many of us, I see the wonderful opportunities these technologies bring into our lives - I also see some of the limitations that come with them.

Any opinion about the benefits and limitations I have is naturally limited, and in no small part due to my generation and my age. I accept and embrace this. Clearly I do not know what I do not know (there is a hint there for anyone wondering whether life coaching might be able to improve their life...) so with that knowledge/belief, I realise that I, most likely, do not make the connections or understandings to this technology like someone who was born into a world where these technologies already existed and were the norm.

That last sentence is an interesting point and one aimed at older generations that look at younger generations as being disconnected and device dependent. Has any older generation truly connected with, or been able to communicate effectively with a younger generation? Is todays ipad, iPhone or PC any different from any other technology from years/generations passed? These are questions well worth pondering.

Is todays ipad yesterdays Enid Blyton? Were children throughout history any more or less engrossed in the technology of their time, or seemingly anymore disconnected from their older generation/s than our current generation/s are? Can we start to become aware of, or indeed break this generational cycle of disconnection?

But I digress, the intention of this article is to get you thinking about your life and how you communicate to, and with, the people in your world. Our devices and our technology help us stay connected to each other. Let us not mistake that connection, or explain it away, as communicating with each other. These are two completely different things. We need to understand this difference to ensure we are living our lives more fully and with more awareness.

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In future blog articles, I will be focusing more on those relationships in our lives that we can improve as we make that differentiation between communicating to or at, and... communicating with. I will also be looking at the differences between doing with each other and being with each other. Once we start making those necessary connections in our lives, we start improving the quality of our lives. Coaching helps you make connections - connections that can change your life.

Our devices, whatever the technology (newsfeeds or newspapers, books or ebooks) might be, can be obstacles to authentically communicating and connecting with the people in our lives. As always, awareness is the key.

Are you having some challenges with your interpersonal communication skills with someone in your life? Perhaps a loved one or a co-worker? Maybe its a situation that has challenged you for sometime? Life Coaching with me (see what some of my clients say about coaching with me right here) can help you move closer towards managing, understanding, and moving on in - and through your life .

Would you like to learn more about how coaching with me can help you in your life? Simply go to the contact me drop down menu and email me via the contact form to book a session. Want to ask a question or provide your thoughts about this article? Feel free to comment below the article, or you can email me directly.

 

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Coaching In Small Communities – Understanding The Opportunities

I have lived and coached in small communities throughout Tasmania and in the United Kingdom. Living and working for several months in an island community in the beautiful island group off the south coast in the Isles of Scilly in the UK, gave me some insights into living in island communities.

One of the big advantages of being coached in a small community is the opportunity to move beyond your current way/s of thinking and the way/s you see your world.

This of course doesn't intimate that there is anything wrong or limited with the way you might currently think or live, it can however provide a powerful sounding board to help you to identify any blind spots or areas perhaps that you may not be seeing or even be aware of.

Whilst these comments can be applied to anyone anywhere in the world - they are often magnified in these close knit communities.

There are so many benefits and attractions to living in a small community. Life is generally quieter, people are usually friendlier, and everyone knows everyone. Personally speaking, I love these kinds of communities.

There isn't too much that happens that isn't noticed in smaller communities. It is this kind of environment that can stymy and stifle some people as they get pulled into a community mindset that might be holding them back from expressing who they truly are, and just as importantly, who they are wanting to become.

Even seeking help, support or guidance can be challenging for some people as everyone knows everyone else. Sometimes it is all too hard, so many people withdraw or simply put their concerns, fears and aspirations on hold. Or as often is the case, dismiss them and put them into the too hard basket - never to uncover or explore what could be truly life changing realisations.

If you are faced with such a situation or life quandary, then one option is to explore these things with a person or professional that is outside of or independent of your community.

Life coaching is a powerful and totally supportive way to explore your potential and to help you more closely align to your true self. Coaching with me is confidential and non judgemental. In simple speak, coaching is an empowering process that puts you at the front and centre of your own life.

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Coaching sees you as the expert in your own life. Coaching doesn't ask how smart a person is - it asks how is this person smart.

A competent, qualified, professional coach will provide a warm, friendly, safe and trusting space for you, and invite you to step up and start moving towards the life and conditions you truly want to live.

Life coaching is such a potentially life changing opportunity for those truly committed to wanting to live their life on their terms - not retreat or withdraw into themselves and away from their dreams and aspirations.

Regardless of where you live in the world, no matter how small or large your community is, don't give up on yourself or what you want out of life based on others judgements (real or imagined) about what your life should be.

One key concept and major cornerstone of life coaching is that it is not a profession or approach that gives advice to anyone. It values and acknowledges the person you already are. It sees you as complete and functioning.

Coaching creates a listening space that some people have never ever experienced in their life. Competent coaches listen... really listen. There is power in listening. There is healing in listening.

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Life Transformation – Inner Change Focused Coaching

On some level in our lives we all seek some form of life change. For many of us the change we often initiate is what I call external change - change that is outside of ourselves. This change is often enjoyable and a release for us as we seek to alleviate or address what we might feel on a deeper level perhaps to be some kind of imbalance. Inner change seeks to initiate change from the inside out. This is where life transformation coaching focuses its primary attention. For those of us who seek genuine, authentic and long lasting life change, it is this coaching approach that offers considerable advantages as it addresses the whole person before a course of action is considered.

 

Why is this important? It is because the clearer you can get about who it is you are and what it is you really want, the sooner you can align to your true value base and your life purpose. Its no secret that a lot of people are living lives that they didn't consciously choose to live. They were born, they were given instructions, and they followed them. The instructions are often along the lines of; This is what you need to do to have a successful life. Clearly that is a simplistic explanation, however the point here is that so many of us do not truly think and feel for ourselves. We don't do this because we have not been taught how to do it, nor encouraged to do it.

From the day we are born our well meaning family and associates want the best for us. This is often demonstrated and experienced with a never ending supply of well meaning advice about how we should think, feel and live our lives. Think about that for a moment.....think about the consequences and the ramifications about advice and how it can take someone away from their life purpose and aspirations. Think of how many people have never truly experienced who they really are, and have never seriously thought about addressing that based on their acceptance that life is just the way it is.

The key to life transformation is to understand that if things are not working in your life you need to do some inner work - throwing any amount of things or experiences at the problem here will at best merely mask what is a deeper concern or issue. This approach takes courage and it acknowledges that your life does matter and it is valuable. It accepts that to really change something, you need to understand why it is happening and to then set out to move beyond (transform) it and the understanding or conditions that are holding you back. A life transformation coach would define these things as sticking points, as barriers or blocks, and as blind spots in your life. These things centre around your beliefs about life and the values that underpin these opinions.

Naturally life transformation is something that can be done without a coach. However the benefit of having someone by your side and working with you, is that you can move through this process with an accountability partner who is your support and sounding board. A coach can help you get to where it is you need to go (and that place is you first if you hadn't guessed) in a way that is in true alignment to your real values and the things that are important to you. In other words you start getting to know someone who is really worth your time and effort in getting to know. That person is you.

What is the pay off with this though? What does all this getting to know you amount to? Ever met someone with so much passion, energy and enthusiasm for life who amazed you with how much they loved their life and what they are doing in it? Chances are that this person/s are on purpose in their life and doing what they really want to do. There is no conflict or inner turmoil. There is no despondency. There is no resistance or indifference - they are truly engaged and present in their own lives. It is these people who are generally living (not existing) their lives and know exactly what it is they want out of life.

How much is that experience of yourself and your life worth to you? That is the gift of starting that journey towards you and your own life transformation journey. There are no magic pills or quick fixes here. There are however real opportunities to move from whoever or wherever you are right now, into a new world of possibilities and potential - if you choose to move towards that. So when you think of needing to change something in your life, remember that its the inner change work, that focus on getting to know who it is you really are, that will potentially bring you so much closer to the person you truly are and want to become. Transformational coaching enables this life change possibility in a way that truly supports you and acknowledges your journey towards you.

 

 

 

 

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Life Transformation Coaching – Can You Afford Not To Do It?

'Life Coaching' is a generic term. It is a little vague in its definition, and hardly a helpful guide for those who are curious about what it is - let alone what it does. Its why I brand myself as a  Life Transformation Coach - I see my role and purpose as helping clients transform their own lives. Transformation can mean different things to different people. I define it as moving beyond your current situation or state of being or doing. Its about change. Its about growth. Its about moving to the next level of understanding and awareness in your life.

What I find interesting and in fact remarkable, is how we live our lives and how we attribute a monetary value to all that we do and acquire in life. Our capitalist and consumer driven society dictates as a necessity that we should have and acquire things to live a sustainable and secure existence. The potential problems with this is that we move away from ourselves, our being, and start to identify with and cultivate a materialistic focus and purpose. In other words, our lives become more focused around physical possessions and acquisitions.

So where is the problem in that you might ask? The problem is when things so to speak start going wrong. We are moving away from what makes us human beings to being mere robots when we let our lives define us by what we do, how much stuff we have, and how much status we acquire doing it. For many this is a perfectly natural state of being and one they are content with - at least on the surface. But lets talk about those of us who perhaps need a little more than just things to sustain us or give us real meaning and purpose in our lives.

Before I go on, I am certainly not denouncing modern life, material assets, money or working for a living - we all need those things to varying degrees. I'm talking about those of us who become entrenched in these things and seduced by them until they finally lose any concept (if indeed they had one to begin with) that life is just about those things. How many people do you know who are just not happy or content in their lives? You know the ones, those who are never happy, always complaining about life and about people. They talk of life being hard, that life is not a picnic, that you have to struggle and do it tough to get anywhere in life. So many of these people have lost themselves in the machine, or the machinations of life in a system where they failed to see any other way of living life.

sbicon6This is where life transformation coaching can be of immense benefit to a person - it provides opportunities to move beyond the current limitations and restrictions that are either imposed upon us - or by us on ourselves. Unfortunately because of the system based and societal values that are often the driving force in these individuals, they will never ever afford themselves of the opportunity to truly move beyond this way of life. They either work their way out of it (which is rare as it is a mindset) or they merely grind themselves (and those around them) into the ground. Their world makes sense to them when their actions reflect their values and beliefs. They reward themselves with things, with acquisitions, and for a moment they feel relief perhaps and even a sense of accomplishment.

Life Transformation Coaching can help those who are willing to step out of their box and their current world view. But to do this people need to value and comprehend that this very process has the potential to help them to transcend their current life situations. Unfortunately for many, a brand new TV or multi media device (to replace the one thats working perfectly that they already have) is the only meaningful way for them that they attribute value and reward in their lives. This is why it is so important to never lose sight of your inner world, those things that bring passion, happiness and inspiration into your life. If you hold true to those things, that spirit of creation and potential is ready and waiting for you - ready for your personal transformation.

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